Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Don't ask those questions!!!

I have been married for two years, and yes, there are a few tricks to being married. One of them is to not ask questions!!! (Well, certain questions, anyways.) Our spouses are with us for a lifetime. They are supposed to be our best friend, our lover, and our support system. We expect the truth at all times... but sometimes the truth hurts. Sometimes being asked questions that will hurt the person asking hurts, too. Confused? Let's fix that :)

The first question that may come to your mind is "Does this dress make me look fat?" I encourage variations of this question for two main reasons: 1) it's nice to know what your mate likes to see you in, and 2) we women are very hard on ourselves about our body image. Yes, you can overdo asking this. 

This isn't the type of question I am talking about. I want to talk about those questions that just shouldn't be asked, especially since the likelihood of both or either party getting hurt is almost certain.

1) What would you change about my body?
There is no good answer for that one! And whatever answer is given will always be in the back of your mind.

2) Do you ever compare me to your ex?
The answer is probably "yes" since we can do it subconsciously. ("Wow, Jenna was never this cuddly after sex", etc.) People can't help it. Little things will pop up, like how he puts his pants on last, or how she says "sorry" so much. We draw from our experiences, especially those that were really meaningful or really hurtful. I still find myself thinking about The Jerk, with whom I was entangled for almost a year. It's not because I don't love my husband, it's because I was in an abusive relationship that was burned into my memory.

This is a bit of an odd post, I know, but it was something that I have been thinking about for a while. Be kind to your partner!!!

Thursday, January 15, 2015

What Not To Wear Revalation

The past two weeks, I have been home by myself a lot. My husband started a new job. My father-in-law also decided to purchase cable for the house last week. Awesome! So, I have been watching a lot of Little House on the Prarie and What Not to Wear. 

I like seeing what they do to the larger women. One thing they said really hit home with me, because I do it all the time! They were dressing up a lady named Leeanne who said she would see someone her size in a fantastic outfit and think, "I wish I could pull that off". The hosts of the show pretty much said that if someone else your size can do it, so can you.

I have been trying to work up the courage to believe that. In the past 6 months, I have gotten a lot better at makeup and become more bold when trying new things. Step one, check. Step two, I was given an awesome curling wand. I want to learn how to do hairstyles other than ponytail and buns. And braids. As I'm working on this second step, I am also getting ready to do a no-tshirt campaign. If you remember about two weeks ago, I was able to hit a $0.25 thrift sale. I picked up a lot of awesome winter/fall tops and sweaters. My husband has appreciated the extra effort I have out into my look when we go out.

So, that's my spew for today! If you haven't seen WNTW, find it online. Their tips are great, and they help women of all sizes and age.

Thursday, January 1, 2015

Floral Rayon Fabric + Plans

I love going to Walmart and checking out their clearance fabrics. This fantastic rayon, semi-sheer, floral beauty was on clearance for $2 a yard! I bought all they had: 2 5/8 yd.

I have four projects in mind for this particular fabric.

Top Left Corner: I want to put arm patches on a sweater and use this fabric in the slit, so you can see the pretty colors pop out when my arms bend.

Top Right Corner: I was doing some research on this one, and I think I might need to have a stretchy fabric (which this one isn't), but I'm not 100% certain.

Bottom Left Corner: I am thinking of making a pull-over. It will be nice to have in the summer when its really hot. I will have to have a tank top under it, but at least I will have a little more sun and mosquito protection!

Bottom Right Corner: I want to make a ruched scarf!!!!!!

...Okay. Admittedly, by  the time this has been posted, I have already made the scarf.